Marriage Equality, The Supreme Court, and Emotions

Marriage: (n) the legal or religious ceremony that formalizes the decision of two people to live as a married couple. (n) any of the diverse forms of interpersonal union established in various parts of the world to form a familial bond that is recognized legally, religiously, or socially, granting the participating partners mutual conjugal rights and responsibilities.

Synonyms for “marriage”: nuptials, wedding, matrimony.

Marriage is worth 11 points in scrabble. It’s often a word that brings thoughts of white dresses and flowers to the minds of small girls and thoughts of dollar signs to the minds of men. And it’s been fought over for decades.

Currently, the biggest battle is for equality for same-sex couples. Members of both the LGBT community and the straight community have come together to show their unified desire for the supreme court to ratify same-sex marriage nationwide. Of course, opposition exists, and those opposed are loudly making their case.

But, for many, it wouldn’t actually matter how the court decided to rule. For people like Erin White, a writer for Motherlode in The New York Times, she is married regardless of the Supreme Court’s choice.

Erin, like many, is a strong proponent for same-sex marriage equality. She and her wife married each other twice; once was an exchange of rings and vows, one was two years later to legally join in matrimony when their home state of Massachusetts allowed it. The first wedding, though, is the one that they discuss with their kids. Those are the photos they have on the mantel. Those are where the memories are. Not with a piece of paper that legally binds her, but with the people who were there.

Today is a historic event. In a 5-4 victory, equality emerged victorious. The remaining 13 states that do not recognize marriage equality now must, and same-sex couples everywhere can experience the same security and stability that comes with a legal marriage. But it is still important to remember the reasons behind marrying someone in the first place.

love: (n) an intense feeling of deep affection.

Synonyms: fondness, tenderness, warmth, intimacy.

A ruling doesn’t change the foundation for which a marriage is built upon, and a ruling can’t bring it on or take it away. Today as we celebrate this historical event, we should reflect on why.

We are finally declared all to be equal individuals. Like love, though, that isn’t something a court should be able to tell us is true, nor should it be something they can take away.

Thank you to the Supreme Court for finally making this long overdue decision, and I’m excited to be standing on the right side of history.